Are you addicted to being busy?

Lots of people struggle to slow down and stop being busy. When they have a chance of a break, they fill that time with other things to do!  

We all need rest and so if the avoidance is pervasive, I’ve found there are often deeper reasons behind the need to stay busy.  

Modern times

Firstly, it’s important to remember that we live in a capitalist world that encourages ‘more’, achievement and constant consumerism. This way of living and being contributes to the feeling that more always is better.

While it’s healthy to have goals to work towards, there’s a difference between actively pursuing your goals compared to feeling like nothing is ever good enough or being obsessive in your pursuit of trying to out-do others … or yourself! The latter few most likely being tied to deep rooted self-esteem issues.  

Then factor in social media where we’re bombarded with other people’s highlight reels making us feel like we’re not where we should be.

The society we now live in is probably worse than it’s ever been for keeping us focussed on striving for more as we compare ourselves to often unrealistic or even fake ideals.

Stress

Chronic stress can lock us in a cycle of running off elevated stress hormones making it hard to hear your body’s signals to slow down or rest. You’re then always unconsciously searching for that next hit of stress hormones by staying mentally or physically ‘busy’.

Living this way for any significant period of time will impact a person’s health and self-control leading to a weaker immune system and potentially more long-term health issues as the body simply isn’t built to deal with chronic stress.

Sometimes we need to force ourselves to slow down to realise we need a rest. 

Avoiding feelings & thoughts

I also notice in my work that many people stay busy to avoid uncomfortable feelings or thoughts. If it’s something minor that will pass, then this can be a good strategy but if it’s a long-standing coping mechanism to avoid thinking about or feeling something then this isn’t healthy.

What a lot of people don’t realise is that emotions are chemicals that can get stored in the body. If we don’t deal with these emotions, they build up and can cause mental and physical health issues.

Imagine someone who has spent most of their adult life running away from negative feelings. The prospect of facing all the buried pain can understandably feel terrifying and so the need to avoid that pain gets stronger the more that time goes on.  

This often results in mental breakdown where someone is finally forced to face things because there comes a point where the body just cannot keep a lid on things any longer.   

Understanding our body’s needs

Many people also have a lack of awareness around how directly their health and wellbeing are tied to getting adequate rest. I believe if more people connected the dots between illnesses, both short-term like colds and sore throats, to more chronic conditions like burnout, then we’d see many more people prioritising their rest and self-care on a regular basis!

Negative associations

When working with clients who struggle with chronic busyness, I often find that they have negative assumptions or stories associated with taking time out that they may not even realise they have until we start looking at the issue. 

Here are the most common:

  • Fear of losing control
  • It feels selfish
  • It feels lazy
  • It’s weak
  • I don’t deserve it
  • I feel guilty (parents especially)
  • It feels pointless/waste of time
  • Body weight issues (will put on weight if not active all the time)

If you identify with any of the above, know that these are all very common.

What I hope you will gain from this article is a greater awareness around whether you struggle with busyness and then what might be behind that. It could be one or a number of these factors.

 Awareness is the first agent for change so if you do recognise something about yourself in what’s shared here, you’re now much closer to making improvements.

The truth is that taking time to stop, slow down and rest is not an indulgence it’s an investment

We need to think of stress as a cycle, where periods of intense activity and stress need to be paired with periods of less or no activity. And in equal measure – meaning the harder to you work, the harder you need to rest.

The rest provides the fuel for being busy, to achieve more and perform to a higher standard when you’re in the stressful, intense periods. It’s also vitally important for your health and wellbeing in both the short-term and long-term.

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